The Rules of Engagement: How Early Should You Start Planning Your Wedding?

So you have the man of your dreams down on one knee in front of you. The smile that illuminates your face is contagious and beaming. As he waits for your answer, you wait for his elaborate and heartfelt proposal to reach its conclusion so you can shout “YES!” Staring at the beautiful diamond that he slides onto your finger ever so carefully, you hug and embrace the man of your dreams (and take a few glances at your beautiful new piece of jewelry). As the celebration continues, you begin to come down from cloud nine in a happy state of bliss. Then, it hits you. Now you have the man, the ring, and the lifetime, but what about the wedding? As a cold sweat breaks out and you begin thinking of bridesmaids and taffeta versus chiffon, you wonder aloud “How early should I start planning my wedding?”

Bride in wedding day in lavender field


1. Get an Idea of the Date

When planning your wedding, one of the most important first steps that you need to think about is how long of an engagement that you want to have. This will ultimately determine the preparation time and how quickly you need to move in getting the details sorted out for your perfect day. If you plan on getting married four years from now, then, the planning stage does not have to take immediate precedence in your life. However, if you want to get married in just a few months or even a year, the planning needs to start immediately. For that reason, the most important thing that you need to do before even starting to think about when to plan is to get a rough estimate of the date you want the wedding to be.

2. Venue Planning

As soon as you know the date, the next immediate step should be to secure a venue. Wedding venues can be booked years in advance of an actual nuptial ceremony. Therefore, it is vital that subsequent to setting a date that you find a venue that is available that day. Other details can be worked out closer to the actual ceremony but booking your locations, from church to dance hall, are important. This becomes especially true if you want to get married on a special date or holiday. You may also wish to reach out to an event planner at this time to see their availability for that date as well and to see what you would need to do in order to secure them as help for your wedding festivities.

3. The Year Rule

It is a general rule among wedding planners and those in charge of events that the wedding planning process should be initiated in making decisions no less than twelve months prior to the wedding. Between eighteen and twelve months is an ideal place to start. This, of course, does not include the venue but other special details as well. Eighteen months may sound like a great deal of time prior to the event to be planning but there are details that will need to be secured well in advance. This will also give you time to officially sign on an event planner so that his or her expertise can be utilized fully, as well as to set a budget with your partner in order to avoid cost issues in the future.

Stay tuned for our next post  when we talk about ” Saying I Do”.

Until next time……….